I was watching UFC 110 last week with my friends when I received a phone call from Nonito Donaire Sr. who at the time was in Puerto Rico preparing his ward Marvin Sonsona for his title shot against Wilfredo Vasquez Jr.
Sr. asked me if I had time to hear him out regarding his reaction on some headlines he read on the internet that painted his son in a generous and positive light.
Those who have followed my column are aware that I have followed the career of “The Filipino Flash” Nonito Donaire Jr. and his rise to stardom.
At the end of the day however, I only call things as I see it and when Donaire Sr. offered his sentiments, opinions, observations and experiences regarding “the other side” of his son, I of course am not one to turn away a man who sincerely simply wants to be heard.
In the spirit of fairness, I have been writing all the positives I have seen from Nonito Donaire Jr. and things they have shared to me in the past. Now that his father reached out to me to have this interview made public, it is my job to do so.
Because of the circumstances that day, I requested Sr. if I could schedule an interview with him instead so I can record what he wanted to say and have him personally tell the story to our readers on his side of the story.
Much has been written in the media in the past about this issue but little has been heard from Sr. himself. As the story goes, after Donaire’s successful title defense against Mthlane back in 2008, the father-and-son tandem had a falling out. Follow the story as Donaire Sr. spoke from the heart and held back no punches. I also translated this interview in English below the video.
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CLICK ON THE LINK FOR THE AUDIO:
PART ONE — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vOn74B45p1s&feature=player_embedded#
PART TWO — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dve74aKyEkc&feature=player_embedded#
Translated quotes from part 1:
dSource – You had called me last Saturday after you’ve read some articles on the internet regarding your son. Let’s talk about what you wanted to share.
Nonito Donaire Sr. – I didn’t really read it, I just saw the header because I don’t really read any articles about him (his son Nonito Jr.) anymore because what for? He doesn’t really recognize us (his family) anymore. So it’s almost like we’ve lost interest on any news about him.
dSource – Yes and it’s really sad when you think about it.. so what’s the real situation now between you and your son?
Nonito Donaire Sr. – I really don’t understand it Dennis because for one, we didn’t get into any fight. After his fight against Mthalane, his second defense at flyweight, we didn’t get into an argument or anything and then after that fight I went home to the Philippines. When I was in the Philippines, all of a sudden I read on the internet that they were already looking for a new trainer without even consulting me. After that there was no more. We never really had any form of communication.
dSource – So it’s like all of a sudden there was a gap. What do you think caused that?
Nonito Donaire Sr. – I don’t blame anybody about that other than his wife because it’s like his wife is the one telling her to do everything. It’s like she’s his voice ever since they got married. Ever since they met each other, Jr. had nothing come out of his mouth other than ‘I’m so proud of my fiancee and stuff like that, ‘I’m so proud of my girlfriend’, that’s all you’ll ever hear. He’s not proud of the people that put him in the position he’s now in. He’s forgotten about the people that fed him.
dSource- I am not one to start controversy and there’s much written in the media. I just wanted to hear you out but if it were up to me I want to help find a solution to this. What do you think can help fix the gap between you and your son?
Nonito Donaire Sr. – It’s almost like there’s nothing that can be done anymore Dennis because if you can imagine he doesn’t even greet his mother anymore. When he sent $500 to his mom for her birthday, he didn’t really show his face or anything. He just wrote Happy Birthday then put $500 and they also included a list with all the grocery expenditures when he became a champion. They sent a letter calculating everything. They didn’t even think that when he didn’t have a job, it was all of us that supported him- me, his mom, his cousins and even his youngest sibling would take him out back when he had no money, but he changed. He even turned his back on his promise to his older brother that when he becomes a champion again that he will ask his brother to leave his job so he can focus on boxing, but when he got married, everything changed.
dSource – That’s sad to hear. If you have anything to say to Nonito and I’m sure this message will get to him, what do you want to tell him? Do you want to talk to him? What’s our stance here?
Nonito Donaire Sr. – I want to talk to him and ask him why he seems like he is so mad at our family as if we all have some disease that he is afraid of. Even his very own man, think about it Dennis, his mom that loves him so much, how it feels for a mom to hug her own child, what did he say? He just hugged her and told her to be thankful for the $500 he gave her. Is that how a son acts? Just because he gave $500 is that a big deal to him already?
dSource – So after your fight against Mthlane, you haven’t really spoken to you son?
Nonito Donaire Sr. – Not anymore because since he married Rachel they were doing this that I did not agree with like when we had a fight, they were already planning after-fight parties. I didn’t like that because we had a fight coming up and we didn’t even know what was going to happen yet and theiy’re already inviting all these people without even inviting our family. It’s all about them.
dSource – I am saddened by all of this because I personally witnessed none of these and simply report what I see and I have nothing but good experiences while following Nonito Jr. To me he seems like a good and generous person but I don’t see everything that goes on either.
Nonito Donaire Sr. – You can ask me or his mom so there’s no lies. One of the things that hurt about this is his wife keeps on saying negative things about us in their blogs, and she says all kinds of stuff about my family and the wife of his brother when we don’t even mind their business.
dSource – Has Nonito not supported you since you both parted ways?
Nonito Sr. – Since he married that girl… before he used to give his mom $500 a month. When they got married, that was cut off and Rachel was saying all kinds of things. Another painful thing is when he fought in the Philippines, it was his mom’s birthday. They (Rachel’s camp) gave her rules and regulations that she can’t ask for a shirt, she can’t ask for tickets and that she can’t stand from her seat when they declare Nonito the champion because their personal security won’t allow you to climb the ring. That’s why when I read that, I really felt bad for my wife. She herself raised her son. We supported him from the amateurs til’ he became a world champion and then that’s the thanks you get?
And another thing.. she was called by GMA after Jr.’s win for an interview and then Rachel’s mom told her “Where are you going? You know the rules right?” Imagine what pain a mother would feel being treated that way who didn’t do anything wrong to them and all she wanted was to answer the interview by GMA.
dSource – Wow, that’s really surprising. I’m sure there will be a backlash after fans hear and read this interview. I just don’t want any..
Nonito Sr. – There’s really no controversy Dennis because he purposely turned his back on us like we were hugely indebted to him or we did something really wrong to him for him to treat us like this.
Donaire Sr. – His older sister, when he didn’t have work, he was staying with her and she was feeding him but now when he saw her recently during his fight, he didn’t even bother say hi or ask her how she was doing. Nothing!
He changed a whole lot. There will be an end to all that Dennis. Nothing lasts forever.
dSource – So do you think there is no chance of fixing this?
Donaire Sr. – As long as his wife and his wife’s family are there, it’s not likely to happen because he is so afraid of his wife’s family. It’s like when he sees them, he gets goosebumps or something. Publish everything I am saying. He is so afraid of that family.
dSource – What can you say to the fans right now. I’m sure there’s people that will react to this especially that Jr.’s career is on the way up and there might also be those who will sympathize with you…
Donaire Sr. – It’s up to them especially the Filipinos. They can just think about it and if the same thing happened to them…
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NOTE: Prior to releasing this article, I contacted the Donaires to inform them that I will be running this piece. I have also asked them if they wanted to respond to this interview. I for one wanted to stay away from matters outside the sport itself, but I can’t turn down a person who came to me as a man wanting to get things off his chest. Nonito Donare Sr. insisted that he wanted everything from our interview to be made public. Hopefully this interview can create a dialog between father and son that will ultimately squash this issue and for everyone involved to just get along.
Source: http://www.examiner.com/x-10947-Filipino-Sports-Examiner~y2010m2d27-Nonito-Donaire-Sr-speaks-out-on-his-son-Nonito-Donaire-Jr-and-their-estranged-relationship
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